Learn the language
“I am very beautiful this morning!”.
This is one of my favorite language stories.
We were living in Holland, and a friend went into the bakery one morning. As usual, she was greeted with, “Good morning. How are you today”? She responded, “I am very beautiful this morning”. What she wanted to say was, “I am very tired this morning”. LOL. There is only just a slight difference between these two words (“moe”, pronounced “moo” which means tired and “mooi”, pronounced “moy” which means beautiful or pretty. Moy? Moo? It was easy to make this mistake. I’m sure they all loved it. She was trying, and she WAS beautiful. It’s just not the kind of thing one would normally announce to the world. Of course, she was embarrassed but she laughed it off, and I’m sure they thought it was great. Wouldn’t you? I’m sure she walked away with a few extra goodies in her bag that morning.
People everywhere always respond positively to any effort that you make to speak their language. In some countries, like The Netherlands, they speak English quite well but even they have days when they don’t feel like doing it. English is not their language. When you get to know your local shopkeepers, they are usually quite helpful and like to see the attempt that you are making. The more you try, the more they’ll help and willingly. Everyone is trying, and that’s what usually matters in the end. It creates a better connection with the locals. They will appreciate you differently. As long as you try and keep smiling, you’ll find everyday life rewarding instead of challenging.
One of the most difficult things about moving to a foreign country is not knowing the language. Before you even move, look into what language schools will be available in your new area. Check out the social media groups and ask for some tips. Most people are willing to offer their advice. They’ve been there too.
It is important for you to feel like you are trying to assimilate in your new country. No one expects you to become fluent overnight, but wouldn’t it be nice for you to try and do the basic things like order a coffee or a beer? It’s also a great example for your children. Learning the language, even minimally, is such an important part of the experience, and it is also a form of etiquette. The children will probably pick it up quicker than you will and it will be something that you can do together.